Heyyyyy Sweet!

Welcome to love month. This month should be more than one night at an overpriced restaurant ending with maybe just maybe you doing the little thing you do in the bedroom only on special occasions (We’ll get into how that alone is problematic at a later date). Love month is about emotional intimacy, physical connection, spiritual closeness, and self love.

Love month is not about pressure, it’s about presence and intentionality!

Love changes as you change. Your marriage shifts as seasons shift. Your body responds differently over time. None of that means something is wrong.

Could you answer this question for me?
When was the last time you checked in with your heart?

Ok if it’s been a while, let’s do this….
Set a timer for five minutes. Place one hand on your chest. Breathe slowly. Ask yourself one question. What do I need more of right now? Write the answer down without judging it.

Love Starts With YOU!

I know you love your husbae deeply. I know you love them kids. I also know you often come last. Love month calls you back to yourself.

Self love is not selfish. Self love is stewardship. How can you properly fill anyone else’s cup if your own cup is dry as bones?

Other than being everything for everyone, I know that when you feel disconnected from your body, physical intimacy feels hard. When you feel overwhelmed, desire feels distant. When you feel unseen, love feels heavy.

This month is a chance to start over.

Love in Marriage Looks Like Curiosity. Love is not mind-reading. Love is asking.

Many couples assume they know each other, so they stop being curious. But let’s not get so familiar that we ever stop being students in how to love ourselves and our spouse. This is a great month to ask new questions.

Try these with your husbae.
What makes you feel most loved right now?
What feels hard for you lately?
What helps you relax?
What do you miss about us?

Listen without fixing. Listen without defending. Listen to understand.

Here’s something you can do.
Schedule one check in date this month. No phones. No problem-solving. Just sharing and listening. This is practicing and building emotional intimacy.

Emotional intimacy is the gateway to deeper connection. Emotional intimacy is feeling truly seen, known, and accepted.

Ideas to try this month.
Recreate your first date at home.
Ask fun questions from a card deck.
Dance in the kitchen.
Send flirty messages during the day.

Ask yourself.
What do I want love to feel like in this season?
What am I willing to release?
What am I open to trying?

Write your answers. Pray over them. Share them if it feels safe.

Sweet, love is not something you earn. Love is something you nurture.

This month is an invitation to come home to yourself. To reconnect with your spouse. To invite God into the ordinary moments.

A Sweet Prayer for You.
Father, thank you for the woman of God reading this. Thank you for her union and thank you for your grace and patience with her choosing to love and see herself as you love and see her. Father, I pray that this sweet and her husband will have a newfound love that is filled with patience and curiosity. I pray they experience true emotional and spiritual intimacy that will build and increase their physical and sexual intimacy. I pray you break down walls in their relationship that are built with shame and fear. I pray they experience a new thing in their relationship. I pray they enjoy each other the same way they did before the pressures and seasons of life. Allow their marriage to be a living testimony of agape. In Jesus’ name, Amen

Now go and start this work. Love you sweet!

With pleasure and purpose,
Alexis